Is this what they call a midlife crisis?

So this isn’t a happy post. Move along if you don’t want to read venting, etc. I’ve gotta get it out.

The world appears to be in a different dimension lately – like Bizarro or something. I haven’t felt much like writing – which is a bad thing when you do it for a living. I haven’t even posted much to facebook lately.

Ok, call me weird, but the celebrities that have all passed away in the last couple of months….mind boggling for a couple of them. It’s making me feel very old too. I know, how selfish of me, but it’s the truth. We think we know these celeb’s personally, when we don’t. Their passing seems to touch the mere mortal such as myself. I guess it’s because we felt we knew them in some form or fashion.

My work life appears to be on a roller coaster, AGAIN. I’m employed for the moment, but I’m not sure for how much longer with a company buy out and what appears to be layoffs looming. I’m not super upset about it as this job was strictly for a paycheck and hasn’t been all that fun. But it’s a job and I’m thankful for that. Although the job market appears to be good in my area of the world, I can’t seem to land any interviews for the gajillion things I’ve applied to and am more than qualified for. On the one or two that I’ve interviewed for (a gajillion times), It’s like dating or something. All of the sudden “POOF!”, you never hear from them again with no explanation.

I’ve had friends/family let me down recently. I don’t ask for much. I really don’t. I can count the number of people I trust on one hand, so it hits hard when you are let down by a select few. Things that are important to me don’t appear to be all that important to anyone else. I get it. We all have our issues and what is important to each of us is different. Just sucks sometimes. Thank you to those who have been there for me. It means more than you know.

The males in my house all appear to be on their man periods 90% of the time, which makes it even more difficult. These hormones in the teen and tween….they are racing through with a vengeance. Teen driving is enough to put anyone over the edge. :/

I have friends & acquaintances with loved ones with very critical medical conditions and also some VERY heavy other situations. I can not fathom what some of these folks are going through. I am truly thankful for my healthy immediate family and send all of what little positive energy and mojo I have at the moment to them. My issues seem stupid and trite in comparison, so I shouldn’t be complaining. I am though.

The reverse parenting thing with my parents, totally sucks. IT’S.NOT.FUN. My dad has had some recent diagnoses that are not going to be fun to deal with. I’m about to have to take his car away from him and sell it. I’m about to go to an attorney with my Mom to handle a bunch of legal stuff with/for them. I’m making decisions for them and their well being with a little bit of resistance in some areas. My brother…let’s not go there. I totally need to remember all of this when my kids have to reverse parent me. The outlaws…..well thank gawd they aren’t my problem. They are in worse shape than mine are, but I can’t get involved. That’s really hard, but it is what is. (isn’t that the stupidest saying ever?). Thankfully, my Mom is all there mentally. That’s huge and I’m thankful for that.

The positives? Dogs are awesome. I love my dogs. They don’t ask for much other than food, water, shelter and love. They give that love back unconditionally. I’m actually taking classes so one of mine can be tested to be a therapy dog so we may volunteer together to do that. Focusing a lot on that right now.

So is this my mid-life crisis? The point where you go, “WTF have I done with my life that really matters?“ For the love of Pete, don’t tell me “the change” is coming too. I really can’t handle throwing that into the mix at the moment.

I really would like for the world to get back on it’s correct axis again. This is really freaking me out. Please? m’kay? Thanks!

Deciphering the teenage definitions of the word “What”

Ahhhhhhhh. School has started. The smell of overly zealous Axe laden male teens wafts through the house. One can only imagine what it smells like in the hallways at school. (sorry ladies). Pumpkin Lattes are back, wait what? Those things are supposed to be in Starbuck’s by August 26th? It’s still 100+ degrees where I live. WTF?  If we think it, it will be cooler?

So with school starting, I thought I’d help some folks out with the many different definitions of the word “What” as used at my house by the teen and tween (but especially the teen).  Consider this your primer. I never knew there were so many definitions of this word. This is “what”  (see what I did there – Oh!  I did it again) I will call the Rosetta Stone so parents may decipher the word “What” as a child advances into what is called the teen years. “May the Odds Be Forever in Your Favor” or “May the Force Be With You” or whatever works for your household. Oh and buy stock in Axe.

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The Many Teenage Definitions of the word “WHAT”

  1. WHAT!!!!!! - short quick and straight to the point = Mom or Dad called my name and I’m in the middle of something important like Xbox or an incredible driving game on my iPad. How dare you disturb my utterly important activity! The world will freaking end if I’m interrupted!
  2. Whut? – with a look of disdain that says “Why are you speaking to me?” = You looked at me like I did something wrong when all I was doing was sitting here, doing nothing.
  3. What? - sometimes the same as “Huh? “ = You are speaking to me and you’ve told me a required form or assignment is due today. I’ve never heard or seen it and/or you never told me about it, so it must be your fault for not telling me.  It can’t possibly be my fault. I’m an the supreme ruler of all that is teenhood, so what I say goes. I will belittle you with all that is in my response.
  4. Whuuuuuuuuuuuuu——-uuut? - Long and drawn out with an upswing in the  last part of the ut =  Mom, Dad or sibling can not really be saying something that is the truth. I, as a teen, must totally and completely say this version with the implication of “You are a fucking idiot and know nothing.”
  5. Whaaaaat? - exactly as is looks like it’s pronounced, voice a little pensiveness (only as much as a teen can muster)  = I think you might be telling the truth about whatever it is we are talking about, but I’m not totally sure, so I’m going to be a little more polite about it…. in case the parental unit is actually right, which can’t possibly happen until I’m like, 35.
  6. What? - actually normally tone of voice for a human being (not a teen) = usually saw something on the news (totally on accident because I was being forced to watch it because my parents had it on) that I can’t totally believe happened and only believe it because it’s on TV and I can Google it and find the same thing that someone besides my parents is reporting. I might actually believe it since my parents didn’t say it.
  7. WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAT!!!!! - as in “What are you Doing to me?” = my parent is cleaning a scrape, cut, wound of some sort with Bactine, rubbing alcohol, peroxide or some other form of antiseptic torture for my own good. I REALLY think you are trying to kill me.
  8. Whuuuut? - said with exasperation in the voice = We can’t possibly be having THAT for dinner. It’s usually because it’s because something green is included with the meal like broccoli, peas, green beans or salad. I can totally live on chicken nuggets, ranch dressing and french fries, DAMMIT!
  9. What? - very quick and to the point = I fucking heard you the first 10 times you asked me to do something, but I chose not to acknowledge you and I’m still not doing it because my time frame is much more important than yours.  Nevermind the trash truck is rounding the corner. I don’t need to take the trash out right now. Your freaking crazy Mom.
  10. What! - another short and quick, but may also be used interchangeably with “You’ve GOT to be kidding!”  or “What the Hell? “- usually used when dropping something on the floor or a light bulb goes out at the top of the stairs that will require scaffolding to change and your parent has asked you to scale the wall to do it. WTF! You are Spiderman after all.
  11. WTF? – accompanied with using the international hand gesture in the car for “WTF are you doing you asshole driver”.  My kid has this down already and he only has his learners permit. It the beginning of road rage. You’ve been warned.
  12. What?!?!- sometimes followed by a “GAH!” and said with as much disdain as a teen can muster; also may include an eye roll or a huff and puff = YOU ARE RUINING MY LIFE! I can’t believe you just said that to me or asked me that. I’m going to go pout with my hormones for the next 20 minutes or until I need to borrow the keys to the car.

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AND Saving the last one as a parental response to What?

What!! – Parental short quick and straight to the point response, with exasperated attitude in parental tone after having heard the request of “MOM!!!!!” 27.6 times in a 5 minute time frame = Teen/Tween said “MOM!!!!!!!”  27.6 times in a 5 minute time frame and you are expected to immediately respond to his royal highness.

 

Well, Hello!

Yep, it’s been a little while since I’ve posted. If you follow on the FB page, then you at least know I’m still alive.  So what’s been going on?

 

  • I got laid off with several other people at the end of January.
  • I interviewed for 1 job at 1 company no less than 10 times over the course of 3 months. Yep, 10 freaking interviews, verbally told just waiting on the offer letter only to get a “Dear John” email a week after the last interview with the hiring manager saying he’d gone with someone else. What a dick. Asked for feedback. Zero response.  I guess I should’ve titled an email WTF YOU PRICK????? and maybe I would’ve gotten a response. You don’t think so? Pfffffffft you are no fun!
  • Spiraled into a deep depression after all of that time and energy went into 1 stinking job. Then one morning found out the company I’d had the 10 interviews with was being purchased by another company and I could’ve been in another layoff situation. I don’t know about you, but I totally believe a higher power was involved in that whole thing. One that didn’t want me to work for an asshole who couldn’t make up his mind AND one that didn’t want me to have to go through a layoff again.
  • Ended up taking a position a couple of months ago with huge cut in salary, but hey, it got me back to work (and a paycheck) so I didn’t end up strangling my kids over the summer and I’m getting some great experience in a new industry. I think I should go with the later statement on that bullet.
  • If you follow me on FB, you know this already…..the teen got his learner’s permit and we are in the throws of his driving education.  He’s been through the class time, now behind the wheel training with the driving school and with us. I’m not sure I’m going to live through this one without a lot of alcohol induced stupors after we get out of the car. APPARENTLY it’s illegal to be a drunk passenger in the front seat with only a learners permitted driver at the wheel – well, at least in my state.  GAH!  Buzzkills!  It’s also incredibly tough to teach a kid the right things to do when there are a multitude of asshole drivers out there.  I find myself screaming, “DO NOT do what that asshole just did!!” quite a bit. I’ve also discovered the hubs and I differ in what is the “right” way to drive. Poor kid getting all sorts of mixed instruction. This is what I imagine every time we are in the car:

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  • I started back to the gym when I started this new job. This getting old shit is for the birds. So far have stuck with it.
  • It’s almost been a full year since I’ve been wheat free and gluten free.  I’ve had a couple of slip ups here and there, but totally don’t do much of that intentionally anymore as I can’t make it through the 3-5 days afterwards of migraines, arthritis pain and total complete brain fog. Have discovered I have similar reactions to corn products, but not rice products.  GAH our food supply sucks!
  • My massage therapist and I are on really great terms (for those of you who follow because of the JUNK post). I actually applied a lot of that feedback and boy do we communicate well now!

 

So if there is still anyone out there still following me, thanks for sticking around! Now that I’m back up and running with a routine again (creature of habit), the creative juices are flowing again and I hope to have a few posts coming up in the next few days or so.

 

Hope everyone is having an AMAZING summer!

 

I am still here and I am still alive

Believe it or not! I actually went into 2014 with a REALLY awesome and upbeat attitude….and then WHAM!!!!!!!

I’ve been swamped with just life in general.  The latest….well I’ll have TONS of time to get back on the writing for fun starting Feb 1st.  It appears that budgets have been cut and I’m one of about 10 people that get cut – well, 10 if you count some of the people in December.  So back on the job hunt I will be!  That was very Yoda-ish.

More later, but wanted to let some people who actually have missed me know that I’m still alive and kicking!  Oh and I just renewed my domain, so there’s THAT too.

 

The Holiday Letter I Would Love to REALLY Write

I really do enjoy receiving everyone’s holiday cards/letters, at least most of the time. I only got one realistic “year in review” letter in which this friend actually described one or two of his/her challenges for the year.  It was quite refreshing to get this one scattered within the throngs of “My kids are perfect, we are in church 4 out of 7 days of the week, my kid is the star athlete and my life if beyond awesome” letter.  I don’t really write those kinds of annual letters, but it did get me thinking…I’d love to send a letter like the below some time:

Note: this is entirely fiction – totally made up – and was intended to be flippant for those of you who don’t normally read my blog . I cuss in there too, so you’ve been warned.

 

Dear People We Only Mail Something To Once A Year (if you are lucky to have made our list):

Merry Christmas!  Happy Thanksgivingkah! Happy Kwanza!  Happy Festivus.  That is the one we’ve decide to observe this year and henceforth are airing our grievances.  We have a gorgeous pole in the middle of our living room. It’s been tough to keep Grandma off of that pole though.

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The year started with Bob getting pulled over at 12:05am on New Year’s Day. We had only made it down the driveway of the party we were attending.  Things didn’t go very well as he told the officer to, “Go Fuck himself” when he was asked to walk the sobriety test line. Fast forward to a few hours later and I’m bailing his beat up ass out of jail. I believe the report said something along the lines of “massive quantities of alcohol in system- above legal limit,  which lead to verbal abuse of officers as well as an attempt to take a swing.  We say attempt as he couldn’t see well enough to even come close to hitting an officer, but defendant did break his wrist upon hitting the police cruiser. Note: See report of damage to vehicle.”  Off to the ER we go. Surgery needed. There were multiple breaks and screws to be inserted, but this couldn’t happen until the swelling went down. Needless to say, the next few days were NOT fun to be around Bob. Thank GAWD for the drugs he got for pain.  I used them to tolerate his whining.  I’ve determined that he was in an alcohol and drug induced state for at least the first 4-6 weeks of the new year. He lost  his license and was required to do 9 months of community service. I’ll have to admit, it was a little fun to drive by him picking up trash along the highway. I threw a cup of two out while he was there so he’d have something to do.

The teen. Well, he is failing some class called “Skills for Life”, which I think is something like what used to be Home Economics when I was in school. I’m really not sure since I’m not allow on the school grounds anymore (more on that later). This really worries us for his future.

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Home Ec Way Back When

 

How does one fail a class with that name, or all of his other ones for that matter? He and his pregnant girlfriend had better get their shit together, or this could be REALLY bad. There is no way in hell I’m home schooling his ass or his triplets. He does not do any sports.  He’s a master of Call of Duty Ghost Ops though.

The tween.  He’s actually probably the only semi-sane one in the house.  That’s probably because his hormones haven’t quite kicked in yet, but I know they will soon as he’s starting to get pizza face.  He’s passing everything, so there is that.  He is a master of Mine Craft. He and his brother fight constantly. We finally told them to just kill each other and get it over with. That’s some awesome parenting right there, you know, tough love. I read that on the internet somewhere. He totally sucks at football and his team lost every single game. I blame the Dad that’s the coach.  He really sucks.  He didn’t really appreciate Bob’s coaching suggestions either.  What a dick!  Bob was just trying to help!

I lost 5 different part-time jobs this year so I decided I should throw my hat into the ring of volunteering at school.  This PTA thing isn’t going so well.The women in that group don’t appreciate my use of the work “fuck” as a noun, verb, adjective and every other possible form used in my every day conversation.  I truly have been saying it just for reactions now.  I’ve thrown in a twat waffle and douche canoe a few times too. I don’t think they will ask me to volunteer for the school carnival again. I was forbidden from the school grounds by the principal too. WTF???

We have not be able to find a church that will allow us to return for a 2nd visit. So, we have decided to worship the devil, at least that is what we have decided is our answer if we ever open our front door to anyone for anything. I don’t think the Home Owners Association appreciated the pentagram flag that we put up in the front yard, but we were within size limits DAMMIT! It was a ton of fun to see neighbors drive by slowly and give us the hairy eyeball. I suppose we should have removed the goat from the front yard.  Well, we actually did after we got the snotty letter from the HOA. They also requested that we take the car off of cement blocks that is sitting in front yard too. Hey!  My kid is working on getting it running!  He’s been working on it for 6 years!  Can’t you just give him a chance?  Assholes.

The dog keeps shitting on the floor and eating out of the cat box. I’m seriously ready to reduce our number of pets by at least 4 dogs and 3 cats to get us down to a manageable number. That pot-bellied pig is just too cute to get rid of though. Who knew it was pregnant when we got it?

I haven’t quite been able to get into the holiday spirit this year for some reason.  I’m trying, but it’s just been kind of tough. Thankfully, Bob gets his license back on the 31st!  Happy 2014!

Smooches and middle fingers,

The family from hell

 

We Are All Connected – Not a Funny Post

Today, my heart aches for a lot of people who are hurting. Today marks the 1 year anniversary of losing an amazing lady, far too soon to the ugliness that is breast cancer.  She left behind many friends and family as well as her husband and 3 children.   Like my Aunt (my Aunt passed away 3 years ago at the age of 44 – leaving behind a husband and a 3-year-old), this amazing lady fought like hell for 3 very long years.  It wasn’t meant to be.

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Do you believe we are all connected in some way?   I do. It’s scary sometimes how freaking small this world is. A personality I had been following on Facebook for a while turned out to be this lady’s BFF.  That was truly spooky, especially because she lives across the country. As I started seeing her post photos on her Facebook page at the same time I knew of this wonderful lady’s passing, it blew my mind away.  We’ve become long distance virtual friends.  I hope to meet her IRL someday.

Today brings back so many emotions of what it was like to be with my Aunt for her last moments. No one ever gets over that. All we can do is remember the wonderful people these women were  and how many lives they touched and continue to touch. We are all better people for having known them.

Hug your loved ones really tight today and be sure they know how much you love them. To borrow the phrase from this woman’s BFF, “Love and Light to You All”   – today and always.

 

We Can’t Let the Ladies Have EVERYTHING!

Well hello! This is one of those posts that if you haven’t read the About Me tab on my blog, you may wanna.

Have you guys and gals read this Smart Bra article? Go read it first, then come back here. Seriously, go.

Welcome back! So if they are going to make a Smart Bra for ladies that tells them not to eat emotionally, shouldn’t they make something for dudes as well? I mean, ladies are emotional beings. Men are sexual beings. At least that’s what the book Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus says. Therefore, an invention must be born.  Let’s call it the Testicle Tester? or the Jerking Jock? How about the Ball Barometer? Hmmm, I like that one since it measures pressure.  It can tell you when…..wait for it…..wait for it…..a dude is aroused!

Not only will the Ball Barometer gently lift and caress your balls, it can actually detect when a male is thinking about sex!  How’s that, you ask?  There are sensors in just the right place that will go off as soon as the penis starts to go erect.  It too, can help males control urges by announcing “DANGER WILL ROBINISON! DANGER! Step away from the babysitter ”  ever so discreetly into a dude’s ear.

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It will then flash up a picture of his Mother-in-law for immediate deflation (or the least erotic photo of his choosing).

Now why the hell would a dude NEED this device? Ah, yes, I can see it’s usefulness in so many different areas. Let’s see, he’s at school or work and is about to give a presentation. Something flips his switch.  The Ball Barometer goes off.  NOT here!  NOT now!!  He’s on a first date, things are getting intense. The Ball Barometer goes off. It IS a first date! Don’t assume he/she’s a slut.   The wind blows in his ear. The Ball Barometer goes off. After all sometimes that’s all it takes. He comes home from work ready to jump his wife’s (or significant other’s) bones after he/she’s been taking care of a 12 month old and a 3-year-old all freaking day long or is working outside the home and now is dealing with the bewitching hours in toddler land.  Ball Barometer goes off.  This is so NOT the time!

There are some issues with this invention though.  Just like with a bra for the ladies, some men discard their tidy whiteys or boxer briefs the minute they get home from work, that is, IF  they wear any at all. Can you say commando? Another issue, isn’t it like every 2 minutes a dude thinks about sex?  Wow! So jacking off can make you go blind and the Ball Barometer could make you go deaf? Sucks to be a dude sometimes.

OMG! What if the Smart Bra and the Ball Barometer meet each other?   DO NOT CROSS THE STREAMS!  I REPEAT, DO NOT CROSS THE STREAMS.

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It will be the end of the world as we know it.

Yep, the Smart Bra must be made by men, just like feminine products (remember my commentary on that?). It’s only fair that we women invent something for them!

 

 

A follow up to the Junk post

So I realized that I hadn’t posted about my most recent trip to the massage therapist, so here goes.  It’s not NEARLY as controversial (or some thought entertaining) as my previous post http://batpoopcrazy.com/2013/10/24/omg-please-tell-me-thats-not-your-junk/

Last week, I went to the same therapist I’ve been going to for quite some time. I did think a lot before I went to try to decide how I’d bring it up with him, if needed.  I’d made the decision that if the lotion bottles were an issue, I’d just politely say to him, “Hey, you know what? If that’s the lotion bottles, would you please adjust them a little bit as they are a bit of a distraction?  Thanks!” I really wasn’t even stressed about talking with it about him, mainly because of those of you that gave me suggestions on here and my Facebook page.  You guys/gals rock!  I also took the advice of some of those that posted on here and placed my hands under my hip bones. It turned out that worked really well too!  In addition to that, he changed some of his technique, in a good way,  so there wasn’t ever any question. I wonder if he is one of my readers.  That could be embarrassing. :/ All of that being said, there was not any reason for me to bring it up to him.

I’m a great tipper, so if any of you massage therapists ever need me to “mystery shop” to see how anyone is doing, just let me know. I now have no problem with addressing any “testie” situations. Of course, that would require some travel and that could be cool! I will be travelling to Colorado sometime in Feb/March and I always get a massage while the guys are out skiing. Now any of you in that state may be wondering…….Is this BPC woman I’m working on?   Ha!

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours tomorrow! If you are traveling, be safe! Enjoy the the dysfunctional family time – at least that’s what it is at my house!

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Acceptance, One of the Hardest Things Ever

I was just thinking to myself yesterday……wow, this has been a good week with the teen.  The Hubs has made it home from work at a decent hour.  We have had our dinner all together most nights. The boy’s have finished their homework. We even had a family game night on a week night. Norman fucking Rockwell.  No yelling and screaming and the teen is actually done what he’s supposed to be doing.  He had an issues with a class and he handled it.  Boom!  We are on our way! Waiting on that family of the year award in the mail.

And then Thursday happened.  I log into the on-line grading system and there it is……a 62 on a test….that he told us was actually going to be today…..that was actually taken on Wednesday.  

If you look back on the last post I wrote, I told you that I’ve been pretty laid back about his grades, that is, until he really fucks one up. Then I will get involved. That’s our deal. He knows it. Therefore, I’m WAY up his ass on 2 classes that he tanked the last grading period.  I told him I’d check the on-line system daily and he would have 24 hours to fix something or find out what happened.  After that 24 hours, I’m sending an email to the teacher.  Well, I didn’t wait on this one since we are about to have Thanksgiving break. Immediate email to the teacher. We trade emails and I figure out what happened.  Bottom line, the kid is so damned unorganized and he’s not using all the tools at his disposal (websites, day planner, etc) to stay straight so he really deserved the grade he got. Honestly, I don’t know that I would’ve either if we had those tools when I was in 9th grade.  The Hubs and I trade emails, texts, phone calls as the Hubs is really wound up again, “He lied to us, blah, blah, blah.”  Here’s the part where I disagreed and Hubs and I are not on the same page and it sucks.

We have these things called “re-tests” in our school district.  I hate these stupid things because there are not any fucking “re-tests” in life or jobs or anything. The Hubs is Ok with retest as it is a chance to have a do-over and improve grades.  ANYWAY, Oscar will retest for this fuck up in December.

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The life of someone with ADHD

A reminder, Oscar has ADHD (Inattentive type) and Dyslexia.  YEARS ago, the Hubs and I went to a seminar about mainly the ADHD. I keep revisiting that seminar. Being organized is the most hellacious  concept to a kid with ADHD – like THE WORST THING EVER.  His brain doesn’t work that way. There is no way the Hubs (with his anal retentive organizational habits) can wrap his own brain around this. Oscar’s  brain totally works in a different way than even mine.  Trying to force my organizational system (I can be anal retentively organized too) on him – doesn’t work. Yelling my organizational system on him – doesn’t work. Trying to force the Hubs’ organizational system on him – has NEVER worked no matter how much he’s tried to scream it into his head. Oscar NEEDS to figure out what works for him. If that means he fails something here and there, then so be it. It’s how kids learn. I’ve been fighting THIS fight with the Hubs since Oscar was diagnosed in 3rd grade.  I really wish he’d let him fail something in elementary or middle school when the grades really didn’t count. Now, every grade counts. I also think there is something else going on in that brain that we have just not figured out. This kid is so much like my older brother. My brother’s an undiagnosed dyslexic, ADD, whatever.  We didn’t have any of the tools that we have today to recognize some of this.  I lived this already, but the Hubs will not let me compare or bring up the similarities with my brother. That part sucks too.

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My dyslexic kid would think this is hilarious!

I truly don’t think Oscar blatantly lies.  I think he is so fucking confused sometimes that he just doesn’t know what to do or how to ask for help. I think he thinks one thing in his head and he communicates something totally different and he thinks he’s said/done what he was thinking.  I know that sounds fucked up, but I don’t really know how else to describe it. I really think that is what happened with this particular test/grade. He got WAY confused.  Does he lie sometimes?  Oh Hell Yes! He’s 14.  What 14-year-old doesn’t? This time was different though.

So, I accepted a long time ago that he will have to learn in his own way.  He will have to organize in his own way. It doesn’t mean I haven’t done my own amount of yelling & screaming. The Hubs hasn’t accepted that or let go. It’s beyond frustrating.  I told the Hubs I can’t do the yelling, screaming, accusatory shit anymore with this kid. I’m choosing my battles with him. I’ve now drawn a line in the sand with the Hubs (after re-explaining all of this again and again) and said I can  not be supportive of the yell/scream fest.  I just can’t live that way anymore.  Oscar is not a lazy kid. Gosh he’s smart as whip, and that is the hardest part. We KNOW he has the ability, he just doesn’t have the drive or motivation, or actually its focus. We don’t know what his motivation is.  I’m OK with that. Only he can figure that out.  The Hubs still has not come to that realization.

I also used to think my brother was a pathological liar. I don’t think that anymore since I now have a kid that is a lot like him. It only took me 40+ years to figure that out.  The difference in my brother and my kid is my kid is super intelligent, especially in math.  I don’t say this just because he’s my kid and my brother tormented  me relentlessly all through my childhood.  But my brother, even with his short comings, is a law-abiding, tax paying citizen.  My kid will be too.  I just want my Hubs to accept that too. I know we all want more for our kids, but we can’t do it for them. We just can’t.

So I haven’t played the “30 Days of Thankful” on Facebook all month.  What I will do is say how incredibly thankful I am for this kid. I know some of you are saying , “Whuuuuuuuuuuuuuuut?”  It’s the differences in people who make this world go around. If we were all the same, life sure would be boring.  I accept he’s different from me.  I accept he’s different from Felix.  I accept he’s different from the Hubs. I accept that Oscar’s his own person and brings his own kind of uniqueness to the world.  He will be fine.